Hi. We have survived week one of having two children. Yes, we are tired. Yes, we have lots of laundry to catch up on. But we are happy and feeling full. Carter is a wonderful baby and has been very good at nights so far. Sadie was a very different newborn. She was always a delight, but getting her used to sleeping at night and being awake in the day was a challenge. Carter has proven to be so much easier (so far). Sadie has been such a rough sleeper her whole life that waking up a few times a night to feed and change Carter really isn’t too big of a change for me. I’m used to not sleeping. I haven’t slept through a night in a while and I’ve grown to not need or expect it.
Our biggest change and challenge thus far has been Sadie. She is an amazing big sister and is unbelievably smitten by her baby brother. When she sees me first thing in the morning, she runs over to me at lightning speed to see her brother in my arms. She always wants to hold him and kiss him and tell him about the things he’ll do when he’s not a baby anymore. Although the love is strong in this new sibling relationship, we are still having our ups and downs with the change. Sadie regressed very seriously in the sleep department. She began refusing naps and bedtime. One of the first nights home with Carter she wouldn’t go to bed until 1am. That was a nightmare. But Devin and I have been very proactive about correcting this glitch. We cut her naps in half and started waking her up daily at 6:30am, no matter what time she went to bed. We also created a quiet environment from the time she wakes up from her nap until bedtime. We try and keep all the heavy stimulation and exploration to the morning time. These few tactics have been working for us and her sleep has improved drastically since changing up our routine.
Sadie also very obviously misses me. I miss her too. Of course I see her all day long, but it’s different now. My lap is usually occupied by a sleeping infant and many a times I am too busy nursing Carter to be able to play with her or read her books. I’ve even missed kissing her goodnight a night or two because I was in the middle of feeding Carter. I’m doing my absolute best to give them both everything I got. And although it’s not a perfect scenario, I feel good about the balancing effort I’ve put in and I can breathe easy knowing that there’s nothing more I can give that I’m not already giving.
I love these little babes so much. I can’t believe I have TWO children. I love saying children now. Not my kid, or my daughter but my children. They are both so rad. I love watching them together and I love watching my husband with them. I especially love the super duper bond that Devin has formed with Sadie in these weeks of paternity leave.
Anyways, if you were to ask us how we’re doing since becoming a family of four. I’d say that we are totally blissed out. Things are more challenging, days are shorter, grocery shopping is near impossible, sleep is something of the past but we are just glowing with joy. How lucky are we to have such happy, healthy and beautiful children.